Losing a pet ( pet bereavement )

[Jon]

I did do a search, but nothing came up.

Our Lovely Felix, a black and white Cat, passed away three days ago. He was sixteen years old. Our Lovely Trixie, a Staffordshire Terrier cross, passed away back in 2018. She was thirteen years old. The pain in losing them, really does hurt.

The missus has always wanted more pets. I don't want to go through all that pain again. I really do get attached to the pets, and I just do not deal with pet loss very well.

 

[DavidWatts]

Oh, man, so very sorry. It is always rough. We lost our Junebug 2 months ago at 19. We've had 5 cats in our household since marriage, and several more each before that. We now have one. He's 5, and we know we'll go though this pain all over again. We rationalize the pain vs. giving our friends as good of a loving life together as possible. Have adopted some at older ages that weren't probably going to get adopted by anyone else -- the hard luck cases. Still, it always hurts and sucks badly when they leave us. Again, so very sorry for your loss.

 

[Jon]

Oh, man, so very sorry. It is always rough. We lost our Junebug 2 months ago at 19. We've had 5 cats in our household since marriage, and several more each before that. We now have one. He's 5, and we know we'll go though this pain all over again. We rationalize the pain vs. giving our friends as good of a loving life together as possible. Have adopted some at older ages that weren't probably going to get adopted by anyone else -- the hard luck cases. Still, it always hurts and sucks badly when they leave us. Again, so very sorry for your loss.

Thanks.

Something my missus keeps telling me. All the many years of love, we share with our pets.

 

[DavidWatts]

I like to think the shared love and times together are all cumulative. More is better. The pain is still real, but if I end up somewhere after this life, the pet family members had better be there too.

 

[Jon]

I like to think the shared love and times together are all cumulative. More is better. The pain is still real, but if I end up somewhere after this life, the pet family members had better be there too.

Something my missus always says.

 

[Yno]

Jon, my condolences. We lost Sherman three months ago and are still heartbroken. He was such a happy boy.



Well, most of the time. Sometimes he was a little miffed with us.

 

[StephenM]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. We have lost six cats over the years, and it is always painful. The first we had for 15 or 16 years, and when she died, I also thought "never again". But a few days later, we went to an animal rescue centre and adopted two cats. We've had two ever since.

The pain of loss will always be there, but for me it is outweighed by the joy of their company and different personalities. One of our cats (both can be seen in my avatar if you look closely for Poppy, the darker one) has just come onto my lap as I'm typing this.

 

[gjl711]

So sorry for your loss. I don't have any magic word to make things better other than remember the years you had with them. For me, even as bad as endings are the journey is well worth it.

 

[Capn Jack]

Condolences.

 

[Jon]

Jon, my condolences. We lost Sherman three months ago and are still heartbroken. He was such a happy boy.

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Well, most of the time. Sometimes he was a little miffed with us.

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Thanks. Some lovely photos, of a lovely fella.

 

[Jon]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. We have lost six cats over the years, and it is always painful. The first we had for 15 or 16 years, and when she died, I also thought "never again". But a few days later, we went to an animal rescue centre and adopted two cats. We've had two ever since.

The pain of loss will always be there, but for me it is outweighed by the joy of their company and different personalities. One of our cats (both can be seen in my avatar if you look closely for Poppy, the darker one) has just come onto my lap as I'm typing this.

Not sure if we will get another pet. Although a stray cat has been visiting for years. He stays over some nights, but he doesn't feel like ours. But that may change, now we have lost ours.

 

[Jon]

So sorry for your loss. I don't have any magic word to make things better other than remember the years you had with them. For me, even as bad as endings are the journey is well worth it.

Thanks. I am still trying to accept he has gone. I still keep looking in the garden, expecting to see him walking up the path.

 

[i-G12]

First let me say I feel your pain (everybody). One of the worst days of our lives when we lose our best friends. They leave us way too soon.

I lost my Kendall 2 1/2 years ago and I'm not over it. I'm never getting over it unfortunately. He was by my side day and night. Everywhere I go now I'm reminded of a time when the two of us were at that place together.

 

[Jon]

First let me say I feel your pain (everybody). One of the worst days of our lives when we lose our best friends. They leave us way too soon.

I lost my Kendall 2 1/2 years ago and I'm not over it. I'm never getting over it unfortunately. He was by my side day and night. Everywhere I go now I'm reminded of a time when the two of us were at that place together.



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He really is lovely. Great that we have photos, to help us remember our best friends. Or I should say, "family members".

 

[Twoshadows]

I'm sorry to see this Jon. I hope there is a measure of peace for you in all of this.

I lost my girl, Wicca, in Sep of 2008. I had to put her down. She was 12. She was also my best friend, who saw me through the worst parts of my life. It's been 15 years and I still cry when I think of her (like right now...)


The last time she ran.

 

[SuffolkBobby]

Every time I am parted from my best friends I say never again...
My Puss Cat, that is what he answered to (along with every cat around) from the cat rescue was 22 when he was laid to rest, too frail to carry on.
Then "Buster" the scruffy brown terrier found by the rescue centre tied and abandoned on a river bank became part of my family, wherever I went, he was always there. I said "no more" after he passed away.
But then there's that silent time when normally they are part of a daily routine, that's the time it hurts most.
The rescue centre called saying a cross Bichon Frieze from an elderly lady owner needed a home. I said no at at first but eventually had to go see and brought JoJo home. Months later the lady asked if we had room for another a cross Chihuahua, that was eight years ago.
They cannot replace those wonderful friends that have gone before them, but they have put their own stamp on my affections. Every morning I wake to two sets of eyes staring at me, they try to part me from my meals, even when I'm at the computer, they are under the table reacting to my every movement.
The knowledge that over the years I provided a happy and safe home for them when they were in need, and the happy memories they left behind far outweighs the pain of losing them.